This is my 6th article in my confidence blog series. It covers the 5 Top Tips I can offer you from my own personal experiences when it comes to overcoming shyness and trying not to be the most socially awkward person in the room lol.
Feeling shy or awkward in certain situations is understandable. Most of us all have a little nervousness before we go talk to that guy or girl, or get sweaty palms before introducing ourselves to a room full of strangers or the worse giving a speech. For some, though, shyness and social awkwardness may not be circumstantial, but constant. This can be very frustrating and hard to overcome, but there are some things you can do to help overcome your shyness and approach people in social situations. Here are my five tips.
Learn to Laugh
There’s something about laughter that makes everyone feel more comfortable. This is why “ice breaker” activities at parties are often designed to get the participants laughing. So don’t be afraid to laugh at someone’s jokes, or learn a few funny lines yourself (not canned “pick-up” lines, but clever observations or comments).
Force Yourself to Stay
Sometimes, shy people feel so uncomfortable in a social situation that they just want it to end and they just want to get away. I am really bas for this one but I highly recommend to consciously resist this impulse. Tell yourself to stand your ground, stay put, and interact. Remember, the other people are not going to breathe fire; they just wants to have a conversation and get to know you. Personally I set mini goals before events. For example, I can’t leave an event before getting at least 3 businesses cards.
Learn to be Comfortable with Silence
Social situations can feel especially awkward if you are uncomfortable with mutual silence. This may trigger shy people to “babble” to fill the silence, which then makes them feel even more awkward because they feel like what they’re saying is silly or nonsensical. So be cool – some silence between people is okay. In fact, it helps give the other person a chance to think before he or she speaks. The person you’re speaking with will appreciate this!
Just like physical stretching, socially and psychologically stretching can be somewhat uncomfortable, even painful. But also like physical stretching, it’s necessary. If your first instinct is to say “No” when someone asks you to do something, stop and think first. Tell the person you will get back to him or her if you aren’t sure. This will give you some time to pluck up your courage and say “Yes.”
Seek a Professional and/or Ask for Advice
There is a point when simple shyness and social awkwardness may be an actual disorder. Social anxiety disorder and social phobia are real disorders that may need the help of a professional. The difference between shyness and these disorders is how much it affects your life.
For example, if you are so shy and embarrassed by just the thought of having to introduce yourself to others or attend a party that you go to great lengths to avoid the situation, it might be a social disorder. When it’s social anxiety or phobia, you have trouble living a normal and productive life due to your social fears. This may be a large indicator to seek professional help.
If you are like me you may want to start by talking to close friends or family that also suffer but are further along their journey and may have tips and tricks like I have shared with you above. Also opening up to the people closest to you can lift a weight off your shoulder. I also love online communities like facebook groups where you are surrounded by like minded individuals that get you.
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